Why Has My Husband Not Apologized For His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are both disappointed and confused as to why their spouse hasn’t expressed sorrow, regret, or an apology about cheating or having an affair. Because it’s not as if they don’t deserve one. Cheating is one of the worst things that you can do to someone you […]

Ways A Wife Can Move Forward After Her Husband’s Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes speak with wives who are trying very hard to pick up the pieces after their husbands’ affairs. I often hear comments like: “I really want to move on, but I just can’t seem to. I keep looking back rather than forward. I’m stuck being angry. I can’t get images of […]

The Difference Between Regret And Remorse After An Affair: Which Is Better? How Can You Tell Which One You’re Seeing?

By: Katie Lersch: One of the most common emotions that a faithful spouse is searching for in the aftermath of an affair is remorse. The faithful spouse can desperately want to believe that the cheating spouse is deeply sorry. And there are many reasons for this: Often, the faithful spouse wants reassurance that they are […]

I Just Can’t Seem To Make My Marriage Work After My Husband’s Affair

By Katie Lersch: I once heard from a wife who was just about ready to throw in the towel. She and her husband had been trying—really trying—to piece things back together after his affair. Neither of them wanted to give up. They both said they still cared. They both said they wanted the marriage to […]

What Can a Wife Do to Help Her Husband Get Over the Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives whose husbands are falling all over themselves trying to make amends. They say things like, “I’ll do anything to fix this. Just tell me what you need. I’ll prove to you every day how sorry I am.” And yet, instead of bringing clarity, those kinds of promises […]

How Can a Wife Tell Her Husband What She Needs After He Had an Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I hear from a lot of women who are really struggling after their husband’s affair. Not just with the betrayal itself—which is gutting enough—but with figuring out what to do now. They know they need certain things in order to heal. Things like real apologies, daily reassurance, some kind of sign that […]

How Does My Husband Not Remember Parts Of His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who don’t believe their spouse’s claims that there are parts of his affair that he can’t vividly remember. Often, the faithful spouse believes that he is trying to be evasive or is out and out lying. They are often left wondering how to pull the facts out […]

How Can You Tell If He’s Truly Sincere About Saving the Marriage After the Affair? Here Are Some Signs

By: Katie Lersch: I hear from a lot of wives who are struggling to make sense of their husband’s words after an affair. They want so badly to believe him when he says he’s sorry. When he says he still loves them. When he promises he’ll do “whatever it takes” to save the marriage. But […]

He Cheated. I Survived. I’m Not the Same—And That’s Okay.

By: Katie Lersch: I used to think that if my husband ever cheated, I’d leave. No second chances. No looking back. No hesitation. I had this black-and-white view of betrayal. If you love someone, you don’t cheat. Period. And if they do cheat, you walk. With your dignity intact. But then it happened to me. […]

My Affair Partner Won’t Let Go: Tips That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch:  Believe it or not, many people express a sense of relief when the affair ends.  Sometimes, the intensity of the affair is very exciting at first, but it becomes troublesome as time goes on, especially if the affair partner clings too tightly or almost becomes obsessive.  So it can be a huge […]